Do You Suspect Your Child Is On the Autism Spectrum?
I sit with another mum up at the school every afternoon waiting for my boys and for 3 pm to tick over. The other mum also has a child on the Autism Spectrum.
In fact, in my son’s class alone, there are three delightful kids on the spectrum, all totally unique.
All with totally different symptoms, quirks and personalities. All have been formally diagnosed on the Spectrum. It is just so good to have other mums in the same boat as me who have similar daily challenges and are Mums I can talk to about our quirky kids without them looking at me like I’m a freak. Because unfortunately, only mums with kids on the Spectrum can really understand what it is truly like to live a day in our shoes.
But when I am talking to other Mothers about it, the ones that are curious about Autism spectrum, I quite often get asked:
‘How did you KNOW your son was autistic?’
‘What were the signs?’
‘What symptoms did your son have?’
How did I know about Autism Spectrum?
For me that answer was simple. I knew SOMETHING was wrong, right from day one, in fact, I knew something wasn’t right the very first hour he was born.
I just didn’t know what it was exactly. All I do know is, that nobody knows your child as you do, the mother, the primary career. If you think, at the bottom of your gut, that there is just something not quite right, then get that checked out.
For me personally, my son’s Autism Spectrum symptoms included:
- Total lack of an appetite (very underweight)
- Lack of ability to settle as a baby (cried 16 hours per day)
- Didn’t like to sleep ever still doesn’t.
- Has massive melt-downs on a regular basis
- You cannot reason with him
- He is ‘jittery’ and cannot sit still or pay attention.
- No attention span
- Flaps his arms when he is frustrated.
But of course, as all kids on the spectrum are different, the symptoms could be different.
Not all kids that display some or even all of these behaviors are necessarily on the Spectrum. And all of us, from time to time, will show different signs that could be thought to be, what was formerly known as ‘Aspergers’.
I know myself, I hate crowds, I don’t much like being sociable, I’m very particular about what I eat. I have trouble sleeping. I ‘hide in my shell’ when I’m feeling sad or overwhelmed or scared. Does that mean I’m Autistic? No. But I have tendencies, like most people.
Other ‘Mainstream’ Type Symptoms for ASD Include:
- Learning difficulties
- Sensitive to sound
- Sensitive to the textures of food
- Slow with speech development or totally non-verbal
- They feel, smell and touch objects obsessively
- Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
- Tourette’s Syndrome
What can I do if I suspect my child might be ASD?
Sometimes ASD in a child is really obvious. Other times, not so much. Because it manifests itself in so many different ways, and there is no ‘one size fits all’ diagnosis, for those kids that you feel something is wrong, if your gut says that ‘something’ isn’t right.. what then? When you explore all the different forms of ASD, you realise that pretty much EVERYONE is on the spectrum somewhere.. Some are just more affected than others.
I implore you to get the Autism Spectrum checked out. The first stop is your local GP and gets referred to a Paed that specialises in ASD diagnoses. There is just so much that can be done now, and the earlier you get any problems investigated, the better. There is funding that can assist your child from the Government, medication that can really assist, and counseling which will really help your child to improve in all aspects of their feelings.
Contacting an organization such as SDN Children’s Services is also an option. SDN is a not-for-profit organization that provides support for children with disabilities or developmental delays. They also have a dedicated ASD-specific center in Sydney that includes child care and other services to help children to participate and be included in the community.
Staying in a mainstream school I feel is important not just for the kids on the spectrum, but for the other children too.
These kids are part of the community. It is wonderful to see how the other children in my son’s class interact with him. They are just so used to having kids in their class like this, they learn to know the child ‘inside’ and not just judge him by his somewhat quirky actions or occasional meltdowns. The kids are forgiving and supportive and it is so good to see.
But having that help both from the school, your Doctor and the psychologist or speech therapist can be tricky. SDN uses a collaborative model where your family has one main contact, but access to a range of specialists. They work with everyone involved in your child’s regular routine, such as your child’s teachers so that the child is set up perfectly in the school system.
Finding the RIGHT school is also important. I recently pulled my children out of a private school because the Principal would not cooperate with my son’s diagnosis and the plans that were put in place by his specialists. Upon putting him in the mainstream public school, he has bloomed. He has teachers and assistants who will help him with any ‘tricky’ situations. So finding the right school with the right teachers can make an amazing amount of difference.
Did I Medicate?
When my son turned five and was officially diagnosed, yes I did medicate. And I don’t regret that for a second, in fact, I think for me and my situation, it was the best thing I could do. It helped him, in turn, that helped him at school, and in turn that helped at home. In saying that, it took nearly two years to find the right combination of medication that helped him.
You may choose to medicate, you may not – that’s up to you, your situation and how you feel about it.
Call SDN on 1300 831 445 to discuss any concerns you might have regarding your child, and they can direct you to the steps to follow to get help.
SDN also run regular workshops for families of children with ASD, for more information and upcoming dates, visit http://sdndisability.org.au/tailoredsupport/